If you're joining us in lesson two today, you'll need to have worksheet one from lesson 1 finished.
Now that you've released the contents of your mind onto a physical space, it's easier to organize your thoughts. Written thoughts are much less abstract, and can be categorized and analyzed. Some of these mind nuggets will represent the great potential in your life, while others will surface as massive deadweight.
Why is this important?
Why is it so important to cut loose these things that are zapping up our energy and time?
Because they're causing friction in our lives. Friction slows us down. Friction makes us hesitate. Friction makes our lives harder. If something in your life doesn't feel right, then just stop doing it - and you don't need to justify it to anyone - even yourself.
True story: I'm heavily referencing Danielle LaPorte in this lesson because her advice on clarity totally changed my life. Danielle convinced me to stop doing things that made me feel bad; things that made me miss out on higher priorities; things that brought about resentment, or things that just didn't feel right. I've turned down a lot of money and exposure simply because they didn't feel right - but you know what? Cutting loose the things that no longer served me in a positive way made room for bigger, better opportunities. I was now more open to potential.
"If you're going to realize your intentions, what you stop doing is just as important as what you start and continue to do. This is where 'quitting' crosses over into enlightenment." - Danielle LaPorte
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Worksheet 2: what can't you control?
Go over worksheet 1: Brain Dump. What things on your list are out of your control? List them in the left column. In the right column, list something relevant to it that you CAN control.
Example: I want to make 1,000 sales. I can't physically force 1,000 people to buy from me, but I can do something to bring in a new audience - I could write to blogs in my niche to see if they might feature my work.
Worksheet 3: the must-do list
Go over your Brain Dump again. List the daily or seasonal tasks that MUST get done in the left column. In the right column, list something about that chore that you're grateful for.
Example: I don't particularly enjoy doing laundry, but it has to get done. So, what about doing laundry am I grateful for? Having clean underwear! (among other things). Realizing the benefit of doing laundry can make the task a little bit more bearable.
Worksheet 4: what can I change?
Go over your Brain Dump again. In the left column, list the things in your life that you don't HAVE to do, that you're NOT excited about – but that you might be able to change. List the change in the right column.
Example: I have to clean out my inbox and answer a LOT of emails to answer. I don't HAVE to do it right now, but it's still looming over me. I could take action right now and hire a virtual assistant to take care of it for me. Done.
Worksheet 5: never look back
Go over your brain dump once again. On this sheet, list the things you no longer want to do, and are only doing out of obligation, guilt, or habit. After you've written them all down, shred this sheet of paper or throw it in the recycling bin... and never look back.
Example: trying to keep in touch with toxic friends (too negative, too judgmental, too selfish) who just leave me feeling worse about myself. No more contacting them out of guilt or obligation.
Worksheet 6: the Focus List
Now, what is left on your original list should be things that you not only have control over, but get excited about, and do by choice. List them here. Invest in them emotionally and time-wise.
Example: I love designing new products. I love playing with my kids. I love writing my new e-book. These are what I should focus on daily.
What are some of the things you want to cut out of your life? It might be a little scary, but it doesn't have to be cold turkey, or all at once. What are some things you might try to phase out?
credits: worksheet clip art by The Ink Nest (affiliate link)